Fear and Indecision? Choose Life!

Posted on: September 8th, 2012 by Penelope

We’ve all been in that place.

You have a pretty good idea what must be done, but you can’t do it.
You know it is the appropriate thing to do, but you just can’t act.
You are stuck.
You mull the circumstances over and over in your head, but still you don’t really do anything about it.
You wait…wait for life to come along and work it out for you.
Then you accept the outcome.

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There are times when this approach might be okay, perhaps even the best choice; but most of the time when we just don’t have the courage to make a decision we just make it harder on ourselves or those around us.

That’s what it boils down to, you know…courage.

Well, I know that’s the case for me anyway.

I have taken to examining myself at such times when I find it difficult to decide what best to do. My discovery is that, even when it is abundantly clear that one action is for the greater good, fear can stop me from acting of my own will.

I used look at the “possible” consequences, and get lost in mazes of fear and worries (about things that 99% of the time never even happened!) and feel I couldn’t bear to move forward. Repeatedly I would return back to the same fork in the road, not acting on either one, hoping that the next time I return there would be more clarity.

Sadly, clarity hardly ever came. Eventually, when I did act, I realised that a lot more damage has been done than was necessary…damage that could have been avoided if I only had the courage to act sooner.

When I finally realised all this, I began to try and change my mentality, retraining my brain with positive thoughts, getting rid of fear and realising that I did have the power to act.

Getting rid of fear and indecision

Making decisions is a key activity in taking control of your life. It’s a skill in itself. Some people seem to have the ability to do it better than others. For these people, it seems to be an innate ability. For others, well it requires development. You have to practice. You have to flex those “decision-making” muscles. You can’t afford to wait around for things to happen. You have to confront your fear…fear of failure and of missed opportunities.

Acceptance

In order to develop the ability to act when the situation demands it, it’s ironic that the best ally is a more “passive” resource. It’s acceptance. When you can learn to accept life, then you are able to do more without being paralyzed by fear. Think about it. You can’t control everything. This is a fact. You will make mistakes in life; but you can recover and move on. Accept all of this and you’re well on your way to being able to make tough decisions.

Acceptance is not so difficult. You do it all the time. Do you drive? Well, if you do, you have to take it for granted that the driver coming from the opposite direction is not a lunatic who is going to run into you. If you’ve ever crossed the street at a Traffic Light, or gotten in a car with someone else driving, then you’re doing a lot of accepting.

How do you do it? Well, you don’t have a choice. You have to get to where you’re going. You wouldn’t get there if you refuse to get in a car because you are afraid you might crash. It’s a risk you have to take because you are convinced that it there is almost no choice.

Well, how about applying that acceptance to your decision? There are no guarantees in life (generally speaking). You might have made a mistake, but at least you had the courage to choose. And who’s to say you wouldn’t have gotten struck by lightning if you had taken the other path. You just can’t know that it would have been better if you hadn’t acted as you did. Accept this as well. It will give you confidence. Trust me, with confidence; you are already half-way to your destination.

Practical Suggestions

“Well that’s easy to say” you might respond, “but in practice its more difficult…”

Yes that’s true because our brains get used to doing things a certain way, but the word practice is key here!  Our brains have infinite capability to learn new patterns (no matter what your age, don’t believe the sayings!), but it takes practice, such as catching negative thought patterns and going back to your breathing. The good news is each time you practice a new way of thinking it gets more and more ingrained inside you

Buddhist teachings may help you understand the concept of acceptance better, and if what I’ve described here is an issue for you I highly recommend you try meditation practices such as Mindfulness which draw on the ideas in a non secular context. Mindfulness courses are currently being offered on the nhs in some places, and you can also find out more about mindfulness, and free audio tracks to listen to here http://www.freemindfulness.org/

My clairvoyants and psychics can also help you to realise these things, and give you confidence in your own decision making powers, with psychic insights about the future.  Getting a window into what is going to happen from a caring psychic can be really helpful, however it is important to be aware that if you are feeling that life is controlling you, the real benefit of the reading will be to empower you to take decisions and not be controlled by fear.

Sometimes people get psychic readings because they think that they can control the future this way, but what we hope to show you is that you control so much of it by having the strength and courage to make positive and healing choices.

You have the ability to change your own destiny!

So step up to the plate. Be kind to yourself and Choose. Don’t be a victim of circumstance. You can do so much more knowing that you are responsible for the choices that have delivered you to where you are in life. It might seem tough or scary, but I truly believe that we only grow as people when we are pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zones.

The results will be worth it!

Penny x

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